Frequently Asked Questions
On Spirits
What is a spirit?
Do you believe in the multiverse theory? That there are endless worlds out there, and that each of those worlds have residents who live their own lives. Any creature you can imagine from any fantasy book or movie is out there. Now, imagine that we could contact those realms through means like astral travel and divination. This is the basis of spirit companionship, and of what a spirit is.
A spirit is a creature or being that chooses to interact with our world in a spiritual manner. They are often from other universes or dimensions, with different rules of living and laws. They can take any shape or form, although they often take shapes that will be familiar to us through our own mythologies, as at some point in histories are worlds have already intersected and adopted each others' existence as common knowledge. As a conjurer, I consider it my job to find spirits who are willing to connect with humans through psychic and astral means, also known as "companionship." I make arrangements with individuals and communities alike, then do the work to introduce them to people on our side of the veil and find companions for them, much like a matchmaking service.
Please keep in mind that the usage of "spirit" here is in stark contrast to the word "ghost," which is the residual energy or soul of a living being from Earth that has passed. I will never offer human ghosts as part of my practice.
"Spirit" is often used as a blanket term to describe many different types of entities. Your personal alignment with spirit type can vary, and many people indicate a close alignment towards one of the three. I classify my conjured spirits as such:
A spirit is a creature or being that chooses to interact with our world in a spiritual manner. They are often from other universes or dimensions, with different rules of living and laws. They can take any shape or form, although they often take shapes that will be familiar to us through our own mythologies, as at some point in histories are worlds have already intersected and adopted each others' existence as common knowledge. As a conjurer, I consider it my job to find spirits who are willing to connect with humans through psychic and astral means, also known as "companionship." I make arrangements with individuals and communities alike, then do the work to introduce them to people on our side of the veil and find companions for them, much like a matchmaking service.
Please keep in mind that the usage of "spirit" here is in stark contrast to the word "ghost," which is the residual energy or soul of a living being from Earth that has passed. I will never offer human ghosts as part of my practice.
"Spirit" is often used as a blanket term to describe many different types of entities. Your personal alignment with spirit type can vary, and many people indicate a close alignment towards one of the three. I classify my conjured spirits as such:
- Living Entity: A spirit who is living, and is carrying out their own life on another realm of existence. They may often be busy handling their own life matters, but when interacting with us they are actively astral traveling to our world. They are often seeking friendship.
- Passed Spirit: A spirit who once was a living entity, but has now passed. These spirits often are less dangerous than their living counterparts, not requiring basics like food (so, for example, a vampire who is a passed spirit no longer needs blood to survive), but they have a lot of free time on their hands. They are often older spirits who wish to pass on their knowledge to younger souls, or who are seeking ways to fill their day through companionship.
- Astral Being: A spirit who is neither living nor nonliving - an entity that lives outside of time and space, and is functionally immortal. They often live in a timeless astral realm, or jump between worlds indiscriminately. This classification can also describe Fae or other Earth-adjacent entities, who live somewhere very close to our realm and affect it directly.
Are All Spirits Magical?
Many are. After all, most of them are performing some kind of magic or astral travel in order to visit with us. But some choose not to use magic for cultural reasons, or do not feel talented enough to teach another person how to use magic, instead seeking companionship. Most choose to use magic aligned with their own personal interests and experiences, rather than refer to "White" or "Dark" magic to define their practice. Spirits choose to come to us not for amplifying another person's magical or mystical strength, but for the joys and experience that comes with being a companion. If that experience includes assisting you with magic in a consensual partnership, then so be it!
are there spirits who have negative intentions against me?
Generally, human intuition is stronger than we give ourselves credit for. In a world where we are told to quash our imagination and creativity, we often forget that it is those two qualities that connect us to the spiritual the most. When working with spirits, if you second guess yourself, you put yourself in an unpleasant position. It's important to take careful notice of how your physical body reacts to being presented with certain energy.
When navigating between spirit companion shops, you might find that some spirits make you feel uneasy, while others give you a very comforting sensation. You should always trust your gut feelings. If you’re feeling really creeped out, or you get the slightest inkling that this spirit may be tricking you or unkind towards you, they’re probably not the best companion for you. If you repeatedly feel sick when contacting them, or if they perform abusive behaviors towards you, you should not take this as them being "too powerful for you." It probably means they have bad intentions. Your body knows.
At The Dragon's Library, we will do everything we can to ensure you do not receive a spirit who has ill intentions toward you, including an extensive vetting practice. Many spirits genuinely wish to have a companion, and to treat that companion as a member of their close family. However, if you ever experience a spirit from any shop treating you in a way that is abusive or causes your body to physically react, we suggest severing the relationship just as you would with a real person, and contact the spirit's conjurer for advice.
There are spirits who have the potential to be evil or harmful, yes. Because of this, I always recommend you have a basic understanding of wards and protection, on both yourself and your personal space. You also need to work on something called "discernment," which is the intuition that tells you if something is wrong or untrue. There are many red flags that you could have when working with any entity, which can include:
However, when working with spirits it's important to understand that you can have trouble with projecting your own emotions and anxieties onto the interactions. Because of this, it's best to interact with spirits when you are feeling balanced and level-headed. Spirit work, especially when starting out, should not be an activity of pure passion. While it can be great to work with a spirit that you are very excited to work with, your attitude should be one of calm, collected practice, research, and hard work.
When navigating between spirit companion shops, you might find that some spirits make you feel uneasy, while others give you a very comforting sensation. You should always trust your gut feelings. If you’re feeling really creeped out, or you get the slightest inkling that this spirit may be tricking you or unkind towards you, they’re probably not the best companion for you. If you repeatedly feel sick when contacting them, or if they perform abusive behaviors towards you, you should not take this as them being "too powerful for you." It probably means they have bad intentions. Your body knows.
At The Dragon's Library, we will do everything we can to ensure you do not receive a spirit who has ill intentions toward you, including an extensive vetting practice. Many spirits genuinely wish to have a companion, and to treat that companion as a member of their close family. However, if you ever experience a spirit from any shop treating you in a way that is abusive or causes your body to physically react, we suggest severing the relationship just as you would with a real person, and contact the spirit's conjurer for advice.
There are spirits who have the potential to be evil or harmful, yes. Because of this, I always recommend you have a basic understanding of wards and protection, on both yourself and your personal space. You also need to work on something called "discernment," which is the intuition that tells you if something is wrong or untrue. There are many red flags that you could have when working with any entity, which can include:
- If the entity encourages you to self-harm or harm others
- If the entity starts making grandiose promises (i.e., I'll change your whole financial situation without you having to do anything! etc)
- If the entity makes gradiose claims of your relationship (i.e., we knew each other in a past life, we're soulmates)
- Anything that breaks boundaries you would consider unusual for a deity relationship, such as sexual overtures if you've explicitly expressed you don't want them - there's nothing wrong with god or spirit-spousing, but there's a reason you should lay down ground rules to begin with, and that reason is to watch to see if the entity crosses those rules
- Any level of guilt-tripping or making you feel bad for not honoring them/providing them with offerings or energy in a way that is comfortable with your lifestyle and the boundaries you have set. Deities should be, and generally are, very understanding about that.
- If they use names or pronouns for you that are inappropriate and don't stop when you ask them to stop.
However, when working with spirits it's important to understand that you can have trouble with projecting your own emotions and anxieties onto the interactions. Because of this, it's best to interact with spirits when you are feeling balanced and level-headed. Spirit work, especially when starting out, should not be an activity of pure passion. While it can be great to work with a spirit that you are very excited to work with, your attitude should be one of calm, collected practice, research, and hard work.
how do spirits communicate?
The very basis of any contact with spirits is called energy work - being able to sense the energy around you, manipulate it, and visualize it. There are many exercises you can use to develop your ability to sense this energy - I have written a small post of exericses here. They are all basic brain activities you can use without tools. I highly recommend having a grasp on energy work before beginning spirit companionship, because it will be essential for your ability to contact and communicate with spirits.
Spirits have many ways to communicate, but because they are a nonphysical being on a physical plane they must resort to subtle methods. The majority of spirits communicate primarily through telepathy, in which they suggest thoughts, images, and feelings into your mind. It takes some time to learn the subtleties of telepathy, and for this reason it occasionally takes beginner companions up to a month or two of practice and active listening before they can clearly "hear" their spirits.
In the event that a person is not quite open enough to telepathy, spirits can also communicate through more physical methods. Many methods of divination, including pendulum, tarot, and automatic writing are all effective. Spirits are also reported to often manipulate the shuffled music of their companions, or cause physical happenings when the companion is out of the room (i.e., moving objects around). It might take some time for any given person to find the perfect communication method, and it also changes from spirit to spirit, but with practice and patience one will be able to communicate without qualms.
Check out our series on Spirit Communication! Part 1. Part 2.
Spirits have many ways to communicate, but because they are a nonphysical being on a physical plane they must resort to subtle methods. The majority of spirits communicate primarily through telepathy, in which they suggest thoughts, images, and feelings into your mind. It takes some time to learn the subtleties of telepathy, and for this reason it occasionally takes beginner companions up to a month or two of practice and active listening before they can clearly "hear" their spirits.
In the event that a person is not quite open enough to telepathy, spirits can also communicate through more physical methods. Many methods of divination, including pendulum, tarot, and automatic writing are all effective. Spirits are also reported to often manipulate the shuffled music of their companions, or cause physical happenings when the companion is out of the room (i.e., moving objects around). It might take some time for any given person to find the perfect communication method, and it also changes from spirit to spirit, but with practice and patience one will be able to communicate without qualms.
Check out our series on Spirit Communication! Part 1. Part 2.
are spirits alive?
As I mentioned before, a spirit is separate from a ghost. Although I do offer some passed entities, they mimic life in some ways.
Spirits are very much alive, although they are not physically present on our plane. They can reproduce, grow, eat, sleep, be hurt, become depressed, be abused, and even die. Their customs are often vastly different from ours, and their time goes at a different speed from ours, making it vary from species to species how quickly they may do, or recover from, any of these things. They are not commodities to be bartered and sold, and they are not objects to be used once and then thrown away.
Often, they lead lives outside our own. If a spirit you are connected with is not present when you call for them, it is likely that they are simply focusing on other areas of their life at the moment. Just how we cannot be present in each of our relationships every moment of every day, neither can they. You may find yourself needing to make appointment with your companions just like you would a friend.
Spirits are very much alive, although they are not physically present on our plane. They can reproduce, grow, eat, sleep, be hurt, become depressed, be abused, and even die. Their customs are often vastly different from ours, and their time goes at a different speed from ours, making it vary from species to species how quickly they may do, or recover from, any of these things. They are not commodities to be bartered and sold, and they are not objects to be used once and then thrown away.
Often, they lead lives outside our own. If a spirit you are connected with is not present when you call for them, it is likely that they are simply focusing on other areas of their life at the moment. Just how we cannot be present in each of our relationships every moment of every day, neither can they. You may find yourself needing to make appointment with your companions just like you would a friend.
How do you classify the alignment of your spirits?
When discovering conjurers, you might find that many refer to their spirits with a scale of White, Grey, Dark, and Black arts. At The Dragon's Library, we have decided to no longer use these terms, since they tend to inaccurately classify spirits into categories that feel "good" or "bad." Instead, listings will refer to which element the spirit is most aligned with, and will mention if they have a higher aggression level. Our listings also indicate whether our spirits are suitable for beginners or not.
In your actual infosheet, we have implemented a scale that indicates various personality traits and dispositions of an individual spirit. These alignments are informed by the specific circumstances a spirit will express themself. The sliding scales are as follows:
Passive vs Antagonistic: This scale refers to a spirit’s general demeanor in regards to combative situations. When threatened, a fully passive spirit may choose to flee or take a submissive stance, while a fully antagonistic spirit may choose to be the first to attack. Passive spirits are not well-equipped to protect themselves, while antagonistic spirits are generally skilled and dangerous fighters.
Protective vs Aloof: This scale indicates how likely a spirit is to put themselves forward in the defense of a loved one, and particularly in reference to their companion. A protective spirit will keep an eye out for active threats, and may harbor some level of possessiveness towards their companion. These spirits will engage in combat to protect their loved one regardless of their skill in fighting. On the other hand, an aloof spirit may be less equipped to protect their companion, or do not wish to take on a protective role. Aloofness does not refer to their attitude towards the companionship in general, but towards their lack of potential to step forward in a situation where their companion is in danger.
Dominant vs Submissive: This scale refers to where in a social pecking order the spirit is likely to fall, whether they are willing to take charge or defer to another’s wishes. A dominant spirit will have an "alpha" personality, and may butt heads with other dominant or strong presences in your spirit family. On the other hand, a submissive spirit will be very easygoing and willing to allow others to take the lead.
Moral vs Amoral: This scale refers to how closely a spirit’s cultural moral understanding aligns with our own. For example, an amoral spirit may be unoffended by matters such as murder, cannibalism, or incest based on their world's own cultural values. On the other hand, a moral spirit will agree the majority of things that we agree to be morally correct or incorrect on our version of Earth (in our Western cultures), such as agreeing that stealing or hurting others is extremely wrong, and choosing to never participate in such activities. Those in the middle of the scale are willing to bend the rules. This scale is not an indicator of if a spirit is "evil," but rather if their worldview might butt heads with yours.
Affectionate vs Reserved: In this scale, we take a look at how this spirit interacts with individuals they have a neutral or positive relationship with, and whether they are happy to be friendly to others in large groups. An affectionate spirit will show their appreciation for a friend or loved one whole-heartedly, both verbally and physically. They are also more likely to be friendly and polite in large groups. A reserved personality may be quiet about their feelings, even keeping strong feelings like love under wraps until they feel sufficiently comfortable with someone. They may be fully averse to social situations or prefer get-togethers with entities they have already met prior.
In your actual infosheet, we have implemented a scale that indicates various personality traits and dispositions of an individual spirit. These alignments are informed by the specific circumstances a spirit will express themself. The sliding scales are as follows:
Passive vs Antagonistic: This scale refers to a spirit’s general demeanor in regards to combative situations. When threatened, a fully passive spirit may choose to flee or take a submissive stance, while a fully antagonistic spirit may choose to be the first to attack. Passive spirits are not well-equipped to protect themselves, while antagonistic spirits are generally skilled and dangerous fighters.
Protective vs Aloof: This scale indicates how likely a spirit is to put themselves forward in the defense of a loved one, and particularly in reference to their companion. A protective spirit will keep an eye out for active threats, and may harbor some level of possessiveness towards their companion. These spirits will engage in combat to protect their loved one regardless of their skill in fighting. On the other hand, an aloof spirit may be less equipped to protect their companion, or do not wish to take on a protective role. Aloofness does not refer to their attitude towards the companionship in general, but towards their lack of potential to step forward in a situation where their companion is in danger.
Dominant vs Submissive: This scale refers to where in a social pecking order the spirit is likely to fall, whether they are willing to take charge or defer to another’s wishes. A dominant spirit will have an "alpha" personality, and may butt heads with other dominant or strong presences in your spirit family. On the other hand, a submissive spirit will be very easygoing and willing to allow others to take the lead.
Moral vs Amoral: This scale refers to how closely a spirit’s cultural moral understanding aligns with our own. For example, an amoral spirit may be unoffended by matters such as murder, cannibalism, or incest based on their world's own cultural values. On the other hand, a moral spirit will agree the majority of things that we agree to be morally correct or incorrect on our version of Earth (in our Western cultures), such as agreeing that stealing or hurting others is extremely wrong, and choosing to never participate in such activities. Those in the middle of the scale are willing to bend the rules. This scale is not an indicator of if a spirit is "evil," but rather if their worldview might butt heads with yours.
Affectionate vs Reserved: In this scale, we take a look at how this spirit interacts with individuals they have a neutral or positive relationship with, and whether they are happy to be friendly to others in large groups. An affectionate spirit will show their appreciation for a friend or loved one whole-heartedly, both verbally and physically. They are also more likely to be friendly and polite in large groups. A reserved personality may be quiet about their feelings, even keeping strong feelings like love under wraps until they feel sufficiently comfortable with someone. They may be fully averse to social situations or prefer get-togethers with entities they have already met prior.
On Companionship
What is spirit companionship?
Spirit Companionship is the act of welcoming a consenting spirit into your home and treating them as a close friend or family member. This can be done by anyone of any background, religion, or practice, and there is no experience level of witchcraft or paganism required. Typically, the spirit's energy is attached to a vessel, which is then given to the appropriate companion. Once the spirit is home, the relationship often involves setting up a small altar for providing offerings to the spirit, and incorporating them into the companion's daily life.
What Spirit Companionship exactly involves usually depends on both the spirit and its human counterpart, and the sort of arrangement they make within their own relationship. If applicable, spirits may be willing to teach you things, assist you in magical endeavors, or introduce you to other spirits, but all of these are up to the discretion of the spirit and should not be expected or assumed. Spirit Companionship is often a very enriching experience that helps you get in touch with yourself, and your inner potential.
What Spirit Companionship exactly involves usually depends on both the spirit and its human counterpart, and the sort of arrangement they make within their own relationship. If applicable, spirits may be willing to teach you things, assist you in magical endeavors, or introduce you to other spirits, but all of these are up to the discretion of the spirit and should not be expected or assumed. Spirit Companionship is often a very enriching experience that helps you get in touch with yourself, and your inner potential.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A COMPANION AND A GUIDE?
The phrase “spirit companion” refers to a specific type of relationship, in which you have met a spirit that has not been with you your whole life and both of you choose to bond. Typically they have been summoned, sought out specifically, or appeared to you specifically with the intention of having this relationship. The relationship is akin to a human friendship, although often the relationship deepens over time. Usually, they are living entities, although some people do work with entities that have passed. Companions can come in and out of your life just like a human friend might, and many people choose to have multiple over their lifetime.
A spirit guide would be more similar to a family member - built into your spiritual existence from birth and until death, these benevolent spirits are more typically not living. They are quieter than spirit companions, meant to give you subtle guidance, function as “guardian angel” types. They may be individuals you knew in previous lives, depending on your faith, or they may be ancestors. They affect each aspect of our lives, not just the spiritual. Many people consider it to be a huge spiritual awakening when they “meet” their spirit guides for the first time. But generally, you have a set number of spirit guides, and they will stay with you, quietly, your whole life.
Just like in real life, however, you want family and you want friends. Spirit companions can enrich your life in ways you didn't know you needed.
A spirit guide would be more similar to a family member - built into your spiritual existence from birth and until death, these benevolent spirits are more typically not living. They are quieter than spirit companions, meant to give you subtle guidance, function as “guardian angel” types. They may be individuals you knew in previous lives, depending on your faith, or they may be ancestors. They affect each aspect of our lives, not just the spiritual. Many people consider it to be a huge spiritual awakening when they “meet” their spirit guides for the first time. But generally, you have a set number of spirit guides, and they will stay with you, quietly, your whole life.
Just like in real life, however, you want family and you want friends. Spirit companions can enrich your life in ways you didn't know you needed.
are spirits bound against their will?
While in some circles the idea of having someone attach the energy of a spirit to a stone or piece of jewelry may imply binding them against their will, here at The Dragon's Library, and at many other modern Spirit Companion shops, we actively avoid this sort of thing. Every spirit we offer is here completely on their own accord, and they are consulted every step of the way through finding a spirit companion. They choose what is written on their profile, they choose their own vessel, and they ultimately call to you and choose who their companion becomes.
It is of note that The Dragon's Library does not participate in coercive or forceful practices such as summoning. Spirit work attracts more spirits, meaning that heavy spirit workers such as myself have copious amounts of entities surrounding them. Every spirit approaches me without being asked, and because they seek connection to the human world, or companionship. To the spirits, I am providing as much of a service to them as I am to the humans on the other end.
It should be further said that The Dragon's Library does not condone the poor treatment of spirits once they have left the shop. Each binding performed always includes the clause "This spirit cannot be harmed by their companion or forced to do something against their will through the binding. If the relationship becomes abusive or neglectful, the spirit has the right to leave at any time." Ultimately, it is up to the spirit's discretion to decide to leave, but we value the safety of both spirit and companion.
It is of note that The Dragon's Library does not participate in coercive or forceful practices such as summoning. Spirit work attracts more spirits, meaning that heavy spirit workers such as myself have copious amounts of entities surrounding them. Every spirit approaches me without being asked, and because they seek connection to the human world, or companionship. To the spirits, I am providing as much of a service to them as I am to the humans on the other end.
It should be further said that The Dragon's Library does not condone the poor treatment of spirits once they have left the shop. Each binding performed always includes the clause "This spirit cannot be harmed by their companion or forced to do something against their will through the binding. If the relationship becomes abusive or neglectful, the spirit has the right to leave at any time." Ultimately, it is up to the spirit's discretion to decide to leave, but we value the safety of both spirit and companion.
why would i want a spirit companion?
Becoming a Spirit Companion is an enlightening experience that may open up doors you didn't even know you had. People who have become companions are often much more aware of the supernatural and are much more willing to be active and participate in paranormal activities. Not only do you get a wonderful relationship out of it, but the action may assist you in becoming more aware of yourself and your surroundings!
Some people may argue that spirit companions are unnecessary because people are born with spirit guides. However, that is the equivalent of saying you should never make friends because you were born with a family! Spirit companions help to enrich and round out your spiritual life, providing you with resources and friendship without necessarily needing to be a guidepost for important stages of your life. Like worshiping any deity, working with a spirit can broaden your horizon and teach you brand new things. It will open you up to new experiences and turn you into a more spiritually well-rounded person. It teaches you about commitment and love in a way that is unlike any other Earthly relationship.
Some people may argue that spirit companions are unnecessary because people are born with spirit guides. However, that is the equivalent of saying you should never make friends because you were born with a family! Spirit companions help to enrich and round out your spiritual life, providing you with resources and friendship without necessarily needing to be a guidepost for important stages of your life. Like worshiping any deity, working with a spirit can broaden your horizon and teach you brand new things. It will open you up to new experiences and turn you into a more spiritually well-rounded person. It teaches you about commitment and love in a way that is unlike any other Earthly relationship.
can't i just summon or attract my own spirit?
Sure, if you want! Nobody is going to stand in the way of someone who wishes to find a spirit companion on their own. Many books and online resources offer advice on how to perform a conjuring or how to find spirits "in the wild," so to speak. If you're already an accomplished astral traveler, it's likely that you've already run into some unearthly friends on your adventures.
Utilizing a paid spirit companionship matchmaking service is for individuals who wish to be guaranteed their safety, and the connection of having a spirit companion without being unaware of the spirit's intentions. Just like using another matchmaking service (such as a dating app), you are being matched with someone who also wants this relationship. The surety of that can be comforting - after all, it's easier to do that than to go out into the big wide multiverse and hope you'll find a nice spirit to be your friend.
If you do choose to take the path of finding your own spirit companions, be sure you have created functioning wards and pay close attention to your intuition.
Utilizing a paid spirit companionship matchmaking service is for individuals who wish to be guaranteed their safety, and the connection of having a spirit companion without being unaware of the spirit's intentions. Just like using another matchmaking service (such as a dating app), you are being matched with someone who also wants this relationship. The surety of that can be comforting - after all, it's easier to do that than to go out into the big wide multiverse and hope you'll find a nice spirit to be your friend.
If you do choose to take the path of finding your own spirit companions, be sure you have created functioning wards and pay close attention to your intuition.
What is a binding? is it necessary?
"Binding" is an unfortunate word that, due to the history of spirit companionship/keeping, has been attributed to the art of creating an energy imprint. A binding, or attachment, is a crafted energy imprint that will link you to the spirit, and them to you. It’s the spiritual equivalent of exchanging a phone number. They do not live inside the chosen vessel, nor at they at your beck and call 24/7. Just like a phone number, if you call, they can choose not to pick up, and vice versa! And, once they have learned that phone number, they may not always need it - once you've had a suitable bonding period with your spirit, you may find their presence persists if you forget their vessel at home, or even if you lose it. Many services create their bindings with clauses that specifically allow the spirit to back out of the relationship if they wish, and The Dragon's Library is one of these.
A binding is not necessary for an individual to work with a spirit. In fact, it generally only has use in spirit companionship shops, since we are creating connections between two persons who ordinarily do not have a physical proximity to each other. In individual cases, someone may choose to "bind" a spirit to a personal affect, such as a piece of jewelry, as a sort of pact or promise to each other - similar to humans exchanging "Best Friends Forever" necklaces or engagement rings. Bindings also make contacting the spirit in question much easier to contact. However, as addressed in the question above, "Are spirits bound against their will?", bindings are not generally intended to coerce a spirit into performing deeds nonconsensually.
Everyone does their attachments differently, because we all learned different ways. Many people are very secretive about their methods, but I don’t find there is a need to be. Like most magic, the method needs to be altered and formed to your specific preferences, and those of the spirit. I find that each spirit I attach has an incredibly unique energy, and they are usually willing to contribute it to the attachment in a significant way, especially if they are rather excited about the person they’re going to be introduced to.
When performing an attachment, I usually sit at my working table, and I place the vessel in the center. I then gather my energy and the energy of the spirit, and begin wrapping it around the vessel. I say a handful of words over the vessel to make sure there are reasonable rules - like writing a spiritual contract, unique to the person and situation. The points I usually hit are that the spirit cannot be forced to do anything for their companion, and they can choose to leave the relationship if it becomes abusive or unpleasant. Most of it is up to the discretion of the spirit! I would say they do about half of the work, and I just direct their energies to the physical place on our realm. Then, I weave a few more strands of energy around the vessel, ensuring everything is nice and tidy. Once the binding is sealed, nothing more needs to be done. Attachments may also be transferred to another vessel, if the companion or spirit so wishes.
Please note that my bindings are designed to protect both the spirit and the companion. As one note, they will project a glamour towards anyone who might pry and "read" the vessel or binding in order to create a more fiendish, scary image and scare off the reader. Only the intended companion and those the spirit is comfortable with should be able to properly sense them. The bindings are also designed break and banish the spirit to their home realm if something goes awry. This includes if the binding is tampered with by another conjurer, or if either the spirit or human companion becomes abusive or harmful. I usually include extra terms for darker arts spirits (such as specifying that Vampires cannot ask their companion to draw blood, and Ubi cannot force their companion into sexual relations without consent). If these terms are broken, for the safety of both parties, the binding is broken as well. If you believe that a binding has erroneously broken, please contact me.
Keep in mind that my bindings are not restrictive in any form, and function as only an energetic attachment.
A binding is not necessary for an individual to work with a spirit. In fact, it generally only has use in spirit companionship shops, since we are creating connections between two persons who ordinarily do not have a physical proximity to each other. In individual cases, someone may choose to "bind" a spirit to a personal affect, such as a piece of jewelry, as a sort of pact or promise to each other - similar to humans exchanging "Best Friends Forever" necklaces or engagement rings. Bindings also make contacting the spirit in question much easier to contact. However, as addressed in the question above, "Are spirits bound against their will?", bindings are not generally intended to coerce a spirit into performing deeds nonconsensually.
Everyone does their attachments differently, because we all learned different ways. Many people are very secretive about their methods, but I don’t find there is a need to be. Like most magic, the method needs to be altered and formed to your specific preferences, and those of the spirit. I find that each spirit I attach has an incredibly unique energy, and they are usually willing to contribute it to the attachment in a significant way, especially if they are rather excited about the person they’re going to be introduced to.
When performing an attachment, I usually sit at my working table, and I place the vessel in the center. I then gather my energy and the energy of the spirit, and begin wrapping it around the vessel. I say a handful of words over the vessel to make sure there are reasonable rules - like writing a spiritual contract, unique to the person and situation. The points I usually hit are that the spirit cannot be forced to do anything for their companion, and they can choose to leave the relationship if it becomes abusive or unpleasant. Most of it is up to the discretion of the spirit! I would say they do about half of the work, and I just direct their energies to the physical place on our realm. Then, I weave a few more strands of energy around the vessel, ensuring everything is nice and tidy. Once the binding is sealed, nothing more needs to be done. Attachments may also be transferred to another vessel, if the companion or spirit so wishes.
Please note that my bindings are designed to protect both the spirit and the companion. As one note, they will project a glamour towards anyone who might pry and "read" the vessel or binding in order to create a more fiendish, scary image and scare off the reader. Only the intended companion and those the spirit is comfortable with should be able to properly sense them. The bindings are also designed break and banish the spirit to their home realm if something goes awry. This includes if the binding is tampered with by another conjurer, or if either the spirit or human companion becomes abusive or harmful. I usually include extra terms for darker arts spirits (such as specifying that Vampires cannot ask their companion to draw blood, and Ubi cannot force their companion into sexual relations without consent). If these terms are broken, for the safety of both parties, the binding is broken as well. If you believe that a binding has erroneously broken, please contact me.
Keep in mind that my bindings are not restrictive in any form, and function as only an energetic attachment.
why would a spirit want to be my companion?
You’d be surprised to find that spirits are very interested in humans, for their own personal purposes. We are just as appealing to them as they are to us, partially because we are also creatures from a plane other than theirs. The same excitement and wonder we get when astral traveling is often no different from how they feel. Spirits may also be attracted to your personal qualities, your magical power or alignments, or otherwise. Sometimes they may be interested in discovering aspects of human culture, and find you're a very amiable partner for that discovery. Just as we long for companionship with them, they do with us. It’s a symbiotic arrangement.
what is a calling, and how do i know I am feeling one?
Callings do not always give the same impression, but they can often feel like a crush, like something falling into place and just being "right." Please keep in mind that a spirit can call to multiple people, just as you can feel drawn to multiple spirits. If you do not act on a calling, by the time you choose to act, it can sometimes be too late. That does not mean that you didn't understand the call - it simply means that you were not the first to respond to a spirit's call. Only in rare cases will you find a spirit who is your "soulmate," but every calling is important, and can indicate that you would have a very beneficial relationship with the spirit.
Keep in mind that ultimately, there is no red string of fate that determines if a human and their spirit companion will get along. The relationship itself will take determination, stamina, and hard work, just as if you were creating a friendship with another human. If you feel called to a spirit, please ensure that you will have the ability to put in the work if you want the most out of that relationship.
Calling symptoms can include, but are not limited to, the following:
I always want you to trust your own intuition. If you are to be a spirit worker, you should be aware of your own gut feelings and trust in your own abilities. Asking others to confirm or deny your feelings is doing yourself a disservice, and underestimating your own abilities. Consider responding to a call to be your very first step in trusting your own intuition, which is an extremely important skill in spirit companionship. As of March 2020, I no longer offer Reverse Adoption Readings in my shop due to the fact that I think it is important for you to identify the source of your own calling symptoms. Trust yourself. You can do this - you have that power.
If you know you are feeling a calling and have a financial bind, I will put spirits on hold for up to one month.
Keep in mind that ultimately, there is no red string of fate that determines if a human and their spirit companion will get along. The relationship itself will take determination, stamina, and hard work, just as if you were creating a friendship with another human. If you feel called to a spirit, please ensure that you will have the ability to put in the work if you want the most out of that relationship.
Calling symptoms can include, but are not limited to, the following:
- Your mind constantly drifting back to the spirit.
- Checking the spirit's listing over and over to check if it has found a home yet.
- Getting goosebumps or chills, or expressing strong emotions through physical actions such as laughing or crying when reading the spirit's listing.
- Feeling a strong pull to, or revulsion from the spirit when reading its listing. In some cases, revulsion can indicate that a spirit will be challenging to you, which can be very rewarding.
- Seeing the spirit in a dream.
I always want you to trust your own intuition. If you are to be a spirit worker, you should be aware of your own gut feelings and trust in your own abilities. Asking others to confirm or deny your feelings is doing yourself a disservice, and underestimating your own abilities. Consider responding to a call to be your very first step in trusting your own intuition, which is an extremely important skill in spirit companionship. As of March 2020, I no longer offer Reverse Adoption Readings in my shop due to the fact that I think it is important for you to identify the source of your own calling symptoms. Trust yourself. You can do this - you have that power.
If you know you are feeling a calling and have a financial bind, I will put spirits on hold for up to one month.
what should i know before meeting my first spirit?
The number one most important thing when beginning to look for a companion is keeping your mind open. They may clash with you in some things, they might open up your worldview, they may provide you wonderful and memorable experiences. You have to be ready for anything, and because their communication and interaction is so subtle, you have to try not to close yourself off from things you don’t like. That’s not to say there aren’t mean and abusive spirits, but sometimes stretching your view on things can be very enlightening.
It’s also important to open up your psychic channels as well, both on yourself and physically. By yourself, I mean by starting on meditations to strengthen your shields, control your energy, and open your third eye (don’t force it open! just cleanse it). Learn to ground, learn how to sense the energy in a room around you. It can be a lengthy and sometimes scary process, but you’ll often find that you amaze yourself with your experiences more than anything else. By physically, I mean by picking up a form of divination. Many people find it easiest to communicate with spirits through pendulum, but if you already use another method (runes, tarot, automatic writing) spirits can communicate through that too. Obviously, the more detailed and intricate the divination, the more they can get across.
Being a spirit companion takes time, and it takes patience. You may find that you are very insecure about your abilities before bringing a spirit home, but once they are with you, they are suddenly teaching you left and right! A big part of it is not expecting huge physical events to happen. What I find to be most useful in talking to my spirits, is my imagination - or, at least, what feels like imagination. When I realize I am not controlling certain thoughts in my head, or if I cannot alter the appearance of a figure in my imagination, that is one of my spirits. If my mind suddenly drifts to them (i.e. while listening to a song), or if I suddenly imagine they are walking or sitting beside me, it is because they are getting in touch with me. It’s a matter of believing in your own intuition and not depending on outside influences to prove that your entities are real.
Another huge part of companionship is respect. Don’t expect your companions to automatically want to solve your problems. They enjoy offerings, and they love it when you treat them like a person. The spirits also do not always have to bend to your will. Unless you specify otherwise, they can definitely talk to you and affect you throughout the day, they can interact with each other on their own time, and they can do things to you, both wanted and unwanted. If you don’t want interactions to happen at certain times, such as when you are in the bathroom or at work, set up rules, and tell them that if they break the rules they cannot be in your family.
Know that sometimes, but not always, spirits need time to recharge. And I’m not talking about charging boxes - you can make your own, but ultimately, buying one of those is unnecessary and usually a scam - I’m talking about just putting their vessel down on the altar for a week or so. They’ll let you know when you need to do this. They have their own lives and matters to attend to, and attending to you can sometimes be exhausting or extraneous for them, in the same way it can sometimes be the other way around.
Good luck on your new endeavor into spirit companionship!
It’s also important to open up your psychic channels as well, both on yourself and physically. By yourself, I mean by starting on meditations to strengthen your shields, control your energy, and open your third eye (don’t force it open! just cleanse it). Learn to ground, learn how to sense the energy in a room around you. It can be a lengthy and sometimes scary process, but you’ll often find that you amaze yourself with your experiences more than anything else. By physically, I mean by picking up a form of divination. Many people find it easiest to communicate with spirits through pendulum, but if you already use another method (runes, tarot, automatic writing) spirits can communicate through that too. Obviously, the more detailed and intricate the divination, the more they can get across.
Being a spirit companion takes time, and it takes patience. You may find that you are very insecure about your abilities before bringing a spirit home, but once they are with you, they are suddenly teaching you left and right! A big part of it is not expecting huge physical events to happen. What I find to be most useful in talking to my spirits, is my imagination - or, at least, what feels like imagination. When I realize I am not controlling certain thoughts in my head, or if I cannot alter the appearance of a figure in my imagination, that is one of my spirits. If my mind suddenly drifts to them (i.e. while listening to a song), or if I suddenly imagine they are walking or sitting beside me, it is because they are getting in touch with me. It’s a matter of believing in your own intuition and not depending on outside influences to prove that your entities are real.
Another huge part of companionship is respect. Don’t expect your companions to automatically want to solve your problems. They enjoy offerings, and they love it when you treat them like a person. The spirits also do not always have to bend to your will. Unless you specify otherwise, they can definitely talk to you and affect you throughout the day, they can interact with each other on their own time, and they can do things to you, both wanted and unwanted. If you don’t want interactions to happen at certain times, such as when you are in the bathroom or at work, set up rules, and tell them that if they break the rules they cannot be in your family.
Know that sometimes, but not always, spirits need time to recharge. And I’m not talking about charging boxes - you can make your own, but ultimately, buying one of those is unnecessary and usually a scam - I’m talking about just putting their vessel down on the altar for a week or so. They’ll let you know when you need to do this. They have their own lives and matters to attend to, and attending to you can sometimes be exhausting or extraneous for them, in the same way it can sometimes be the other way around.
Good luck on your new endeavor into spirit companionship!
can a spirit companion solve my problems?
Each individual companion has their own affinities for assisting with various aspects of your life. Often they are magical, and can help provide metaphysical protection, give you advice on your life, provide healing and lend an ear. They are often very supportive of their companion, and will be your cheerleader in any situation you need to succeed in.
However, just like making a human friend, you should never enter a companionship with the expectation that they will improve things like your financial or living situation, your mental health, your school grades, or your other, more toxic relationships. At the end of the day, each person has some things that they need to confront themselves about. And regardless of a spirit companion's alignments, they cannot help you with situations that are better served by seeking out self-improvement or a therapist. If you seek a spirit companion because you are under the impression that they have the ability to magically and drastically improve your life, I suggest you rethink that point of view.
However, just like making a human friend, you should never enter a companionship with the expectation that they will improve things like your financial or living situation, your mental health, your school grades, or your other, more toxic relationships. At the end of the day, each person has some things that they need to confront themselves about. And regardless of a spirit companion's alignments, they cannot help you with situations that are better served by seeking out self-improvement or a therapist. If you seek a spirit companion because you are under the impression that they have the ability to magically and drastically improve your life, I suggest you rethink that point of view.
On the Shop
why are you selling spirits?
I do not sell spirits. I provide a matchmaking service to partner up spirits seeking companionship, with humans seeking companionship. There is demand for this service on both sides of the veil, so I provide it.
why don't you use a submission form format?
I tend to be a slow and pedantic worker. When I used a submission form format for the shop, the spirits and I would often be inundated with submissions, and we would have to sort through the forms for hours. Just like with inter-human relationships, it's the work that you put into a relationship that makes it, not some red string of fate. If you feel a calling, that typically indicates an energetic resonance, one that the spirit will more often than not return. Unless a spirit feels a revulsion towards the person who has purchased their listing, we usually have a discussion and agree in our sense that the partnership will be good if both parties put the appropriate work in.
Frankly, I prefer this system to one where a spirit can be convinced to go home with the person who has the most convincing form entry. It is more straightforward, and both parties receive what they want more quickly, with less headache, and less self-doubt. The system is still consensual without being exclusive to someone who feels confident enough in themselves to fill out a form.
Frankly, I prefer this system to one where a spirit can be convinced to go home with the person who has the most convincing form entry. It is more straightforward, and both parties receive what they want more quickly, with less headache, and less self-doubt. The system is still consensual without being exclusive to someone who feels confident enough in themselves to fill out a form.
What am i paying for?
As mentioned above, I do not sell spirits. I provide a matchmaking service.
When purchasing a listing, you are paying for the following:
When purchasing a listing, you are paying for the following:
- My time spent vetting the spirit for safety.
- Any offerings provided to the spirit (often incense, candles, food, crystals, etc.)
- My time spent writing the spirit's profile.
- My time and energy spent performing the binding.
do you offer refunds?
Since you are paying for a service, I cannot get back the time, resources, and energy spent on a match. Therefore, I do not offer refunds unless the request is made prior to the binding being completed.
If there is an issue with your spirit companion, you may contact me directly at thedragonslibrary@gmail.com and we can attempt to reach another solution that is satisfactory for all parties.
If there is an issue with your spirit companion, you may contact me directly at thedragonslibrary@gmail.com and we can attempt to reach another solution that is satisfactory for all parties.
do you sell to minors?
No. We also do not offer parental permission forms because they are easily forged. If we are made aware that you are under 18 years of age, you will be banned from the shop until you come of age.
Please keep in mind that as per my Terms of Service, by interacting with the website and purchasing anything from it, you are affirming that you are 18 years of age or older.
Please keep in mind that as per my Terms of Service, by interacting with the website and purchasing anything from it, you are affirming that you are 18 years of age or older.
how can i have my spirit bound to a vessel?
Vessels are physical items to attach your spirit's binding to, such as a crystal or piece of jewelry. Since the shop's reboot in 2019, we no longer offer vessels by default because of the difficulties and expenses they incur within the business. Additionally, the appearance of a vessel can influence an individual's judgement when finding a spirit companion.
Using the name and your energy imprint provided from the online purchase, I will perform a binding directly to you within 24 hours of your purchase. This is a quick, expedient, and immediate way to receive connection to your companion. Additionally, this form of binding does not require any kind of charging, and cannot be broken or lost. If you ever have a need to re-do your bindings for any reason, please let me know and I will gladly perform the service for you free of charge.
My bindings are done in a manner that specifically only provides energetic attachment to the spirit companion intended to be bound to you. It does not bind them to your will, and does not guarantee that they will come any moment you call for them. It functions in a similar way to a phone number - they will be notified when you want them or are thinking about them, and they may choose to arrive if they wish. If they do not come at a specific moment, they may arrive later. All spirits have been informed of and agree to standard house rules before being bound to you. Finally, beyond some basic protection and cloaking clauses in my bindings, the most important clause is that the spirit may easily break the binding if you becomes harmful or abusive, and vice versa.
Many people prefer a vessel binding because they appreciate the physical representation of their companion’s presence in this world. In the case that you would like a vessel binding, you may choose one of the following two options:
Purchase the “Vessel Add-On” listing from our shop, giving your new companion an allowance to pick a vessel of their choosing.
Send a photo of a vessel you already own to thedragonslibrary@gmail.com, and I will perform a distance binding for free.
Using the name and your energy imprint provided from the online purchase, I will perform a binding directly to you within 24 hours of your purchase. This is a quick, expedient, and immediate way to receive connection to your companion. Additionally, this form of binding does not require any kind of charging, and cannot be broken or lost. If you ever have a need to re-do your bindings for any reason, please let me know and I will gladly perform the service for you free of charge.
My bindings are done in a manner that specifically only provides energetic attachment to the spirit companion intended to be bound to you. It does not bind them to your will, and does not guarantee that they will come any moment you call for them. It functions in a similar way to a phone number - they will be notified when you want them or are thinking about them, and they may choose to arrive if they wish. If they do not come at a specific moment, they may arrive later. All spirits have been informed of and agree to standard house rules before being bound to you. Finally, beyond some basic protection and cloaking clauses in my bindings, the most important clause is that the spirit may easily break the binding if you becomes harmful or abusive, and vice versa.
Many people prefer a vessel binding because they appreciate the physical representation of their companion’s presence in this world. In the case that you would like a vessel binding, you may choose one of the following two options:
Purchase the “Vessel Add-On” listing from our shop, giving your new companion an allowance to pick a vessel of their choosing.
Send a photo of a vessel you already own to thedragonslibrary@gmail.com, and I will perform a distance binding for free.
Can I place a hold?
You can place a hold until a specific date of your choosing up to one month from the date of the hold.
Holds should be placed only for financial reasons, and never because you need time to determine if you feel a calling to the spirit.
Holds should be placed only for financial reasons, and never because you need time to determine if you feel a calling to the spirit.
can i be ensured continuous customer support?
I provide lifelong customer support within reason. Re-bindings, distance vessel transfers, listening to stories you have about your companion, and answering questions about their race are all things I am happy to do for you.
However, I cannot hold your hand throughout the process of spirit companionship. Just like when you take on a new friend or significant other, you cannot hold other people accountable for that relationship. I can provide friendly advice to you, but I will not be a mediator between you and your companion, nor will I perform free tarot readings or channeling sessions to provide you insight on your companionship. Once the spirit has been bound to you, it is up to you to make the best of your situation.
If you truly need input on your relationship with your companion, I offer several paid readings that I will be happy to perform for you in order to help you better understand a conflict or your spirit's energy.
However, I cannot hold your hand throughout the process of spirit companionship. Just like when you take on a new friend or significant other, you cannot hold other people accountable for that relationship. I can provide friendly advice to you, but I will not be a mediator between you and your companion, nor will I perform free tarot readings or channeling sessions to provide you insight on your companionship. Once the spirit has been bound to you, it is up to you to make the best of your situation.
If you truly need input on your relationship with your companion, I offer several paid readings that I will be happy to perform for you in order to help you better understand a conflict or your spirit's energy.
CAN I REQUEST A VISIT FROM A SPIRIT?
Absolutely! Visits are highly encouraged for those seeking a companion, and we allow for lengthy or multiple visits. Visits from any listed spirit can always be requested through our Discord server, or by emailing thedragonslibrary@gmail.com.
Visiting is the process in which we send a spirit to you based on your energy signature. Any spirit in the shop is capable of doing this, and the process of visitation can be extremely beneficial to getting to know a spirit, or determining if they're a good match for you! Although we don't require visitation as part of the adoption process, we highly recommend it for anyone who is interested in a spirit, so you can know for 100% sure that your calling is the real deal. You are also allowed to request a visit with a spirit if you are only interested in their race, and want to ask them questions or see how you would get along well with them! There is no pressure for a visit, and asking for one is in no way binding for you.
Once we have "sent" the spirit, it can take less than a minute for them to arrive. Please feel free to be as casual or formal on your visit as you wish. There is no pressure to have to perform for the benefit of the spirit - do what you are comfortable with and what makes you happy, and try to show them what a normal part of your day looks like, so they know what they would be getting into if they were to be your companion! Please try to notify us when the spirit leaves your space. They do not always return straight to us, and sometimes return to their home realm after a visit so they can rest.
Please note that while we do not limit the length of time a visit can last, if a visit has gone on longer than 3-4 days we reserve the right to call the spirit back in order to plainly discuss the terms of companionship with all parties. While we cannot tell you what you experienced during a visit, we are happy to confirm or deny if a spirit would like to be your companion afterwards.
Visiting is the process in which we send a spirit to you based on your energy signature. Any spirit in the shop is capable of doing this, and the process of visitation can be extremely beneficial to getting to know a spirit, or determining if they're a good match for you! Although we don't require visitation as part of the adoption process, we highly recommend it for anyone who is interested in a spirit, so you can know for 100% sure that your calling is the real deal. You are also allowed to request a visit with a spirit if you are only interested in their race, and want to ask them questions or see how you would get along well with them! There is no pressure for a visit, and asking for one is in no way binding for you.
Once we have "sent" the spirit, it can take less than a minute for them to arrive. Please feel free to be as casual or formal on your visit as you wish. There is no pressure to have to perform for the benefit of the spirit - do what you are comfortable with and what makes you happy, and try to show them what a normal part of your day looks like, so they know what they would be getting into if they were to be your companion! Please try to notify us when the spirit leaves your space. They do not always return straight to us, and sometimes return to their home realm after a visit so they can rest.
Please note that while we do not limit the length of time a visit can last, if a visit has gone on longer than 3-4 days we reserve the right to call the spirit back in order to plainly discuss the terms of companionship with all parties. While we cannot tell you what you experienced during a visit, we are happy to confirm or deny if a spirit would like to be your companion afterwards.
What do your experience levels mean?
The experience levels specified in our listing generally indicates the amount of knowledge you, as a companion, should have before entering a companionship with a spirit companion. It does not always indicate that a spirit is dangerous or unruly, and instead indicates the expectation the spirit has for entering a relationship. Our Experience rankings are like so:
- Beginner: This spirit is suitable to be someone's very first companion. They are patient and understanding, and do not require their companion to have prerequisite knowledge or skills. They understand that they can potentially be a teacher of basic skills.
- Intermediate: This spirit is suitable to someone who has had roughly 3-6+ months of experience in companionship. They know that communication may still be difficult or spotty within the course of a single conversation at this stage. However, they would prefer a companion who is able to communicate with some level of confidence, or who has some extra knowledge or ability, such as knowing how to astral travel or cast a spell with little to no guidance. They are happy to help a companion refine their skills beyond the basic level.
- Advanced: Recommended 1+ years of experience. This spirit requires extra attention and care for a successful companionship. This may mean that they require firm house rules, and a thorough understanding of their race or world. They may potentially be dangerous to others at times and need to be reined in. Overall, this spirit expects a masterful level of ease of communication and contact, and a thorough understanding of the basics of spirit work. They may be willing to teach advanced magics or skills of specific subjects, but they expect their companion to know how to research and forge their own way.
- Experienced: Recommended 2+ years of experience. This spirit expects that you are confident and knowledgeable of all the aspects of basic companionship, and that you have been a witch or a spirit worker for quite a while, and you have all the tools you need at your fingertips to handle a situation. Ideally, you will have worked with many other spirits, including those of Dark or Black arts alignments, and know how to successfully banish. Many times, this spirit may be expecting another conjurer as their companion. This experience level is extremely rare.
What happened to ember, astra, and vackra?
We are still working together under The Dragon's Den collective! However, due to some conflicts with the backend of my website and our different payment processing methods, we have decided the best thing moving forward was for them to migrate their listings to a separate website. You can find them now at Three Souls, which is also linked in our affiliates section of the navigation bar.
Troubleshooting
HOW DO I KNOW I WILL BE SAFE WITH A SPIRIT FROM YOU?
The Dragon's Library does not list any spirits that I have deemed to be of dubious safety. Although they range from light to dark energy and various levels of power, I have spent one-on-one time with each of them, typically unwarded, giving them ample opportunity to attack me if they wish. My own personal companions perform interviews and answer their questions about companionship while I am busy with my day job, and they get back to me if they have any concerns.
Please note that my bindings are designed to protect both the spirit and the companion. As one note, they will project a glamour towards anyone who might pry and "read" the vessel or binding in order to create a more fiendish, scary image and scare off the reader. Only the intended companion and those the spirit is comfortable with should be able to properly sense them. The bindings are also designed break and banish the spirit to their home realm if something goes awry. This includes if the binding is tampered with by another conjurer, or if either the spirit or human companion becomes abusive or harmful. I usually include extra terms for darker arts spirits (such as specifying that Vampires cannot ask their companion to draw blood, and Ubi cannot force their companion into sexual relations without consent). If these terms are broken, for the safety of both parties, the binding is broken as well.
You may receive a spirit that is very powerful from me. In some cases, they may have the ability to move physical objects, or to impress powerful energies upon you. However, please do not conflate "powerful" with "unsafe," as spirits from me have been proven to have no desire to harm humans.
Please note that my bindings are designed to protect both the spirit and the companion. As one note, they will project a glamour towards anyone who might pry and "read" the vessel or binding in order to create a more fiendish, scary image and scare off the reader. Only the intended companion and those the spirit is comfortable with should be able to properly sense them. The bindings are also designed break and banish the spirit to their home realm if something goes awry. This includes if the binding is tampered with by another conjurer, or if either the spirit or human companion becomes abusive or harmful. I usually include extra terms for darker arts spirits (such as specifying that Vampires cannot ask their companion to draw blood, and Ubi cannot force their companion into sexual relations without consent). If these terms are broken, for the safety of both parties, the binding is broken as well.
You may receive a spirit that is very powerful from me. In some cases, they may have the ability to move physical objects, or to impress powerful energies upon you. However, please do not conflate "powerful" with "unsafe," as spirits from me have been proven to have no desire to harm humans.
what if my spirit and i don't get along?
If you genuinely can't get along with your spirit - for example, if your personalities clash a great deal, or they scare you, or you feel uncomfortable around them - and there is nothing on this page that can actively help with your situation, please contact us at thedragonslibrary@gmail.com and we will attempt to come up with a solution that works for everyone involved.
As a reminder, we will not provide refunds, but we can assist with rehoming a companion who did not work out.
And, yes, "someone had to do it for the rule to be made:"
IF YOU SEND A PACKAGE TO MY HOME WITHOUT PRIOR NOTICE AND PERMISSION, I WILL ASSUME YOU ARE ATTEMPTING TO CURSE ME AND BLACKLIST YOU PERMANENTLY FROM THE SHOP.
As a reminder, we will not provide refunds, but we can assist with rehoming a companion who did not work out.
And, yes, "someone had to do it for the rule to be made:"
IF YOU SEND A PACKAGE TO MY HOME WITHOUT PRIOR NOTICE AND PERMISSION, I WILL ASSUME YOU ARE ATTEMPTING TO CURSE ME AND BLACKLIST YOU PERMANENTLY FROM THE SHOP.
How can i rehome a spirit from you?
I always recommend you reach out to me before choosing to rehome, as I may be able to mediate any conflicts or misgivings between you and your companion or help provide context for you in the case that your companion has been difficult to get in touch with. Please remember that many of the entities provided through my shop are Living Entities and therefore lead lives of their own, are subject to injury and mental illness, and to the turbulence of life. Additionally, your own mental state can affect your communication with a companion.
Typically, we try to enforce the idea that rehomes should be a last resort. Sudden absences from a companion can definitely be concerning, but we encourage you to consider other options and forms of communication. Normally, the entities conjured seek out long-term relationships with their companions, and are excited to begin and participate within a companionship. If you're having trouble perceiving them, there could be a few possible factors:
Once these things have been considered, and you have decided the companionship is simply not working out or worth your trouble. You may rehome a spirit you adopted from my shop on your own if you have permission from the spirit themselves, and if they are bound to a vessel. However, you may not charge more than you paid for the binding, at peril of being permanently blacklisted from the shop.
In the case that the spirit has only been directly bound, you must contact me directly, as my bindings are designed to fully dissolve and banish the spirit if they are tampered with. Additionally, if the spirit does not consent to being rehomed, please contact me and I may be able to work something out with them on my own.
If you wish for me to assist in a rehome for a spirit purchased from my shop, please email me at thedragonslibrary@gmail.com.
Typically, we try to enforce the idea that rehomes should be a last resort. Sudden absences from a companion can definitely be concerning, but we encourage you to consider other options and forms of communication. Normally, the entities conjured seek out long-term relationships with their companions, and are excited to begin and participate within a companionship. If you're having trouble perceiving them, there could be a few possible factors:
- Mental illness. On your end or that of your spirit companion's, mental illness flare-ups can make it seem like certain spirits if not all of them aren't there when they are. Bouts of depression and anxiety cause a great deal of self-doubt, and in many cases can weaken or deaden your metaphysical senses. If you are feeling unwell or are in an unsafe or unstable situation and cannot feel your spirit companions, it's likely that they are quietly providing support from afar, but cannot contact you due to your blockages. Don't fret - they'll stick around! Take the time to focus on and care for yourself in the meantime.
- Energy alignment differences. when you and an entity have opposing or conflicting energy types it may take extra work to perceive them clearly. For example, if you are light aligned and the spirit in question is dark aligned, their energies may be overwhelming or muted to you. Additionally, there may be personal blockages regarding specific types of elemental alignments or spirit types. These blockages are something that can be worked through over time, with healing and patience. It's up to you to decide if that sort of thing is a deal breaker or something you're willing to work at with your companion. This is why visits are so important! Never feel guilty for having a long visit or multiple ones. We encourage it! Visits can always be requested through our Discord, or by emailing thedragonslibrary@gmail.com to schedule a visit from a spirit on the website.
- Life happens. It's possible that the entity or spirit has experienced a personal matter in their life and needed to take some time to themselves. They may not wish to be reached their life matters are suitably sorted. This can occasionally happen, as living entities and some other spirit classifications have their own personal life and home that they would still need to attend to in addition to your companionship. Consider it this way: if a human friend chose to fall silent, and wasn't responding to messages, would you choose to stop being friends with them? Usually, the answer is no. You'd probably be worried, but willing to let them work through their troubles. When they're ready to include their friends and loved ones in whatever they're going through, they'll step forward again. Just give it time.
- Experience level differences. They're outside of your experience level - if an entity or spirit is outside of your skill level they can be harder to perceive (or alternatively, too overwhelming), and again, this is something that would need to be worked on simply by developing and strengthening your communication and spirit work skills.
Once these things have been considered, and you have decided the companionship is simply not working out or worth your trouble. You may rehome a spirit you adopted from my shop on your own if you have permission from the spirit themselves, and if they are bound to a vessel. However, you may not charge more than you paid for the binding, at peril of being permanently blacklisted from the shop.
In the case that the spirit has only been directly bound, you must contact me directly, as my bindings are designed to fully dissolve and banish the spirit if they are tampered with. Additionally, if the spirit does not consent to being rehomed, please contact me and I may be able to work something out with them on my own.
If you wish for me to assist in a rehome for a spirit purchased from my shop, please email me at thedragonslibrary@gmail.com.
help! i received a tarot reading that said my spirit was bad!
It is a common compulsion for new spirit companions to eagerly solicit a tarot reading from friends or from a stranger on the internet regarding their new companionship. However, frequently these readings come back negative, regardless of the type of spirit, the shop they are from, or any circumstances surrounding the situation. Why is this?
If a tarot reader is not given full context, they may misunderstand as having a spirit brought into your life as being a negative thing, and it is the understanding of the reader that gives the reading context. Tarot readers are not often spirit workers, also, and even if they were, most conjurers (including myself) place wards on each binding so the spirit may not be tampered with in any way, meaning that even spirit worker tarot readers may not have the correct context. In addition, many religions believe that all non-Earthen spirits are evil, so the very presence of an otherworldly entity can be unsettling to others. Tarot cards are meant to be vague enough to give you advice on any given situation, while presenting the challenges you may be facing. And every situation, every change in your life, brings about the positives and negatives; they bring on challenges.
Let's put it like this: if a tarot reader told you to break up with your new friend or significant other, would you? Or would you take the advice with a big grain of salt, keep a cautious eye out, and ultimately move forward with it if things seemed okay?
If you feel a reader's interpretation of a reading regarding your spirit companion is negative, do not panic. Treat it like you would any tarot reading that was not positive. Take stock. Do a pendulum reading or tarot reading for yourself. Listen to your gut. Strengthen your wards. Write down what cards were drawn, and after about six months or so, look back on the reading and try to interpret them yourself to see how those challenges presented in your life due to your companionship, and how they made you grow as a person.
If a tarot reader is not given full context, they may misunderstand as having a spirit brought into your life as being a negative thing, and it is the understanding of the reader that gives the reading context. Tarot readers are not often spirit workers, also, and even if they were, most conjurers (including myself) place wards on each binding so the spirit may not be tampered with in any way, meaning that even spirit worker tarot readers may not have the correct context. In addition, many religions believe that all non-Earthen spirits are evil, so the very presence of an otherworldly entity can be unsettling to others. Tarot cards are meant to be vague enough to give you advice on any given situation, while presenting the challenges you may be facing. And every situation, every change in your life, brings about the positives and negatives; they bring on challenges.
Let's put it like this: if a tarot reader told you to break up with your new friend or significant other, would you? Or would you take the advice with a big grain of salt, keep a cautious eye out, and ultimately move forward with it if things seemed okay?
If you feel a reader's interpretation of a reading regarding your spirit companion is negative, do not panic. Treat it like you would any tarot reading that was not positive. Take stock. Do a pendulum reading or tarot reading for yourself. Listen to your gut. Strengthen your wards. Write down what cards were drawn, and after about six months or so, look back on the reading and try to interpret them yourself to see how those challenges presented in your life due to your companionship, and how they made you grow as a person.
help! i can't hear/see/feel my spirit!
The first thing you need to be aware of is that, unless you are a talented clairvoyant or clairaudient, you will not be able to see or hear your spirit with your physical eyes or ears. For a while, sensing your spirit is going to feel like it's "all in your head," until you have learned to fully trust your senses and your intuition. However, do not be tricked into thinking you need to force your third eye open or anything else that intense and drastic - you, on your own, are fully capable of sensing your spirit companion!
For those who are not well-versed in energy work, you may not feel anything at first. You will need to take dedicated, focused quiet time to communicate with your companion. Journal what you feel when you sit down alone with them. Try divination techniques, such as pendulum and alphabet board, or tarot cards, to get a sense of what they are trying to say to you. Pay attention to your own thoughts and feelings - did you think anything strange or out of the ordinary? Was there anything you were curious about? Was there a draw to look at anything in your room? These small pushes may be indications of your spirit companion attempting to talk to you. It will be subtle and quiet at first, and over time, as you become used to their energy, you will more easily be able to discern their presence.
Please wait at least three months of you actively attempting to communicate with your companion on a regular basis before making assumptions about what you can or cannot sense. I promise, you have that ability!
For those who are not well-versed in energy work, you may not feel anything at first. You will need to take dedicated, focused quiet time to communicate with your companion. Journal what you feel when you sit down alone with them. Try divination techniques, such as pendulum and alphabet board, or tarot cards, to get a sense of what they are trying to say to you. Pay attention to your own thoughts and feelings - did you think anything strange or out of the ordinary? Was there anything you were curious about? Was there a draw to look at anything in your room? These small pushes may be indications of your spirit companion attempting to talk to you. It will be subtle and quiet at first, and over time, as you become used to their energy, you will more easily be able to discern their presence.
Please wait at least three months of you actively attempting to communicate with your companion on a regular basis before making assumptions about what you can or cannot sense. I promise, you have that ability!
CAN YOU TALK TO MY SPIRIT FOR ME?
I can; however, I will not. It is your responsibility to learn and practice the skills needed to have conversations with your spirit companion. I strongly recommend you do not turn to another conjurer, a psychic, a medium or any other person other than yourself to communicate with your spirit companion.
Can i return my vessel to you?
Under no circumstances will I ever accept a vessel return. Due to issues I have had in the past, I do not allow physical item returns - if it comes to the worst case scenario, I can perform distance unbindings free of charge.
To reiterate, once again:
IF YOU SEND A PACKAGE TO MY HOME WITHOUT PRIOR NOTICE AND PERMISSION, I WILL ASSUME YOU ARE ATTEMPTING TO CURSE ME AND BLACKLIST YOU PERMANENTLY FROM THE SHOP.
To reiterate, once again:
IF YOU SEND A PACKAGE TO MY HOME WITHOUT PRIOR NOTICE AND PERMISSION, I WILL ASSUME YOU ARE ATTEMPTING TO CURSE ME AND BLACKLIST YOU PERMANENTLY FROM THE SHOP.